Now, life for a pre-missionary is kinda weird. At least for me. I am kinda in a sort of limbo. Not quite a part of the world around me and not quite yet a missionary. I think the weirdest part about the stage I am in is the dating life. It seems like I was just getting used to how dating is and the whole game of it. But it’s very different right now.
The guys that I go out with know that I am going on a mission…. and soon. So, it makes me wonder why they would even ask me out. Not that I mind. It does give me something to do. And I generally enjoy them. But I wonder what really is the point? For them?
For the most part, it hasn’t been too bad. In fact in some ways I really like it. For example I am learning a ton about what I like about people. I don’t have to worry about how much I like the kid, or why I don’t like him, and instead I can just observe.
But let me tell you about my night last night. Brace yourself, it’s kindof a long story. First I must back track. A friend of mine I’ll call SS has been asking me to go climbing with him and finally I found a day that worked for me so we decided to go on Wednesday (yesterday) But then Tuesday night comes around and I get a phone call from a friend from Florida I’ll call Sam. He tells me that he is coming to Logan and I owe him a date. (I owe him a date?) So I tell him that I am already doing something on Wednesday. But I haven’t seen him in years so I should see him. So he tells me, see if you can get off your date early, but if not, I don’t mind seeing you after. As long as I get to see you before you leave. So I’m think “ok, maybe I can get SS to bring me home a little early” And we get off the phone. Now I will tell you about Wednesday.
Date #1:
SS picks me up about a half hour after work and we head to the Rock Haus. I am slightly amazed that I still enjoy hanging out with this kid because our personalities are pretty different. I am not sure if he is quite as…. silly as me. and I don’t know how much he makes me laugh which is usually really important to me. But perhapse I find it refreshing when I can hang out with someone and we can just be normal and not have to put on a show. So rock climbing was a blast! I love it! We climbed until we physically could not climb anymore. Which is great! So he brought me home at 10:00pm. I had asked him earlier if I could come home early and he was fine with it.
Date #2:
So I called Sam and he was mad! He was mad that I didn’t get home earlier. He said he didn’t care if “this guy’s” time was cut short. And then he grumbled about now not knowing what we were going to do because everything closes at 10:00 and how he WAS going to take me to Hamiltons blah blah blah… Anyway, so I get off the phone with him and he comes to pick me up. We went to Maceys and picked up some ice cream and then went to Ryans Place Park. To eat it and to play on the playground. He wanted to go on the swings and so I sit down and then he goes behind me and starts to push me. Why does it make me uncomfortable when guys I’m not dating touch me? Anyway, so we talk reminissed and I don’t know how it came up but he said that I had a crush on him when I lived in Florida. And I did NOT have a crush on him. And I told him that. I could have gone into detail of why I never or would never have a crush on him, but I refrained. Anyway, we argued about that for awhile, then he decided he wanted to play tag… I wasn’t in the mood. So I chased him a little… and then when I decided I was done. I said “Ok! I’m going to eat the ice cream!” And he eventually came around when he knew I was serious. So the rest of the date he talked about how amazing he was and how he will be the best boyfriend when a girl finally gives him a real chance. Anyway, then I told him my curfew was 12:00. Then he dropped me off. and then he texted me and told me that I was just as beautiful and even more amazing than he remembered me. I don’t get it! I was not the funnest person when I was with him. He wants to go out again before I leave….
One thing that I have found though, is that dating isnt as important to me as it used to be. And the game is quite annoying. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m getting old, or if its just because I am going on a mission. But I remember when I thought the more dates I had the more successful my week was. Kinda silly huh? Anyway, I hope I feel better about things when I get home from my mission. I have to date before I get married… But I don’t have to worry about that for awhile!
